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#MeToo Movement and Package Deals

July 12, 2018

The #MeToo movement, while well-intentioned, may be the package deal of our time.  Its original intent was to highlight the high rate of sexual assault in our communities.  The idea is that sexual assault isn’t just a once-in-a-while occurrence, but that it happens every day, in our own town.

Sexual assault is pretty clear- you physically bother someone when they have said, “no thanks.”

Sexual harassment is also encompassed in the #MeToo movement, and it is a little bit more dicey.  The dictionary definition of sexual harassment is:

“harassment (typically of a woman) in a workplace, or other professional or social situation, involving the making of unwanted sexual advances or obscene remarks.”

I am actually impressed that Feminist.org actually has an objective list of harassment definitions.  I agree on all counts.

This should all seem straight forward.  You can’t ask for sexual favors of your employees as a condition of employment.  However, let’s turn to the internet and see what is considered sexual harassment.

I keep seeing #MeToo tags covering things that are neither sexual assault, nor harassment.  These are things like, “He asked me out, gross” or “he was making me uncomfortable.”

The first one IS sexual harassment if he continued to harass her after she turned him down.  The second one is only sexual harassment if you have objective reasons.  Your feelings are NOT an objective measure of harassment, or anything else for that matter.  If you say, “it made me feel uncomfortable when he (fill in the blank with a objective charge against him)”  then it is harassment.

Why would I say that?  Why aren’t her feelings evidence?  Because how you feel about something is NOT under another’s control.  Because how you feel should never be what costs someone their job or freedom, just as how they feel should never cost you yours.  I’m sure plenty of suburban white folks felt “uncomfortable” when African Americans became more affluent and moved to their neighborhoods.  The feelings of the neighbors should never interfere with the rights of the African Americans who just wanted to legally purchase a home.

Well isn’t it more important that we protect women from unwanted advances than to worry about the rights of a few harassers?   No.  Let me give an example:

Teenage boy likes teenage girl.  Boy asks girl out.  Girl is not interested at all, and feels uncomfortable that he should even ask.  Boy is broken-hearted but does not ask again.  However, because the girl felt uncomfortable, he is accused of sexual harassment.  He is suspended from school, moved classes, etc.  His entire future is changed simply because he dared to ask a girl out who was not interested.

Granted, had he continued bothering her, it would be a clear-cut case of harassment, and I would agree with the administrative response.  However, our “fictional” scenario happens frequently.  Using only her feelings as a guide, we can severely ruin a young man’s career before it even starts.

Do you want to know why more men haven’t supported the #MeToo movement?  Is it because we are all secretly rapists?  No.  It’s because every one of us was once an awkward teenage boy that asked a girl out who was not interested.  We wonder if that was harassment.

You may say, “but that’s not harassment!” and I would agree with you.  However, even the accusation of harassment is enough to deter many of us.  How many high profile folks have lost jobs over harassment accusations?  Let alone the rest of us!

The package deal is that all of these things are lumped together under sexual harassment.  An honest interest and sincere request for a date is lumped in with back-of-the-alley rape.  The rejected requester may have to prove his innocence, which is impossible, if the only evidence offered is her feelings.

So, ladies, next time that cute guy quietly sips his drink at the bar and doesn’t ask to buy you a drink, it might be because he doesn’t want to be accused of harassment.   Maybe it’s simply not worth it anymore.

Thank you for reading my post.

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Separating Families…Again.

July 10, 2018

I decided to revisit this topic as I hear more about it.

I mentioned before that the poster child of the separated families movement was not actually separated from her parents.  I have been told by numerous people that “it doesn’t matter that she was not actually separated, she is a symbol” of the situation.

Here is the problem:  if this is so widespread, it should be easy to find another “symbol” who actually was separated from her family.  If one wants to show the environmental impact of an oil spill, they show a duck covered in oil from the oil spill; they don’t find a random duck, cover it in oil and use it for the photo.  If a tornado hits a town, the reporters don’t get to take a stock image of another tornado and call it a “symbol” similar to the one that struck the town.  It’s ridiculous and dishonest.

Here’s the real beef, however.  I’ve heard that somewhere around 3,000 families have been separated at the border.  That is tragic.  Yet, how many families right now are separated due to divorce, drugs, jail, abuse, and so on?  While you scream over a symbolic photo, I can see a homeless teenager from my train almost every morning.  And I don’t even live in a huge city.  While you applaud Time Magazine’s cover with Trump and a symbolic screaming girl, a real girl is being sold into sex slavery.  While you yell at the border patrol, a divorced father is granted no visitation of his kids.  While you cry for this symbol, a real child is abandoned in the streets of your city.  Where is your outrage?

In my city, there are an estimated ~2500 homeless teens.  I volunteer at a boarding school for homeless teens that can house 36.  We typically only have funds for around 20 at a time.

This is all manufactured outrage at the current president, and has nothing to do with actual separated families.  This has been going on for ages- all of it.  Where was your outrage in the past?

If you actually cared, if you actually wanted to see families together, you would work towards that.  Instead, you carry signs calling all of your opponents “Hitler.”  If the thousands of protesters donated the time and money that they used in protest towards ACTUALLY keeping families together, what would that look like?  What if instead of spending hours each week arguing on Facebook about separating families, we actually spent the time volunteering at an orphanage, what would that look like?  You claim to want to keep families together, and yet you spend most of your time trying to divide people further.

Thank you for reading my post.

Attack!

June 29, 2018

I would like to point out this awful email I received from FightForEquality.org. This email is a dumpster fire, complete with an animated image of Donald Trump riding on top of a jet towards Wisconsin. Don’t believe me?

surprise attack

YEEEEEEHAAAAAAAW!

 

This email says that Donald Trump is going to PERSONALLY ATTACK a US Senator!

Folks, this is the problem.  Trump isn’t going to attack anyone.  What is he going to do?  Hit her?  Beat her up?

It’s all fake.  And it’s shameful.  The reality is that plenty of LGBTQ folks deal with REAL attacks from people who do physical harm.  To mix up the language here and pretend that political debate, banter and campaigning is an “attack” is to cheapen the experience of those who have actually been attacked.

It’s alarmist and unnecessary.

Furthermore, this organization has the worst website on the planet.  I have no idea who actually receives any money you donate.

Whether you support this candidate or not, you should probably find out if this organization is legitimate or not before donating… then consider whether you want to donate money to an organization that fans the flames of hatred and physical violence.

Thank you for reading my post.

Family Separation

June 21, 2018

I have not spent any time at all researching this issue. So far, I only see what I have seen on Facebook. Most are old pictures during the Obama era, and even older.

Here’s all I have to say about it.

#1. This is why we don’t trust the media anymore. It’s a joke. They post old photos and blame it on the current president. It’s dishonest. It’s a lie. You want to know why Trump won? Because we didn’t trust you, the media, any longer.

#2. I like the fake outrage. Once the photos came out as old, people removed their posts. If there are kids in cages, and that bothers you, why does it matter who was sitting president at the time? Aren’t you still outraged? Or…perhaps… is it about spreading some hatred towards the current president? It would have been equally dishonest if conservatives posted photos, blaming Obama, when it happened under Bush.

#3. It’s funny to watch how Trump flipped (or perhaps researched?) the situation. My Facebook feed is filled with people shouting about Trump locking kids in cages. Then he signed the Executive Order. I bet I see an influx of posts describing how this was a bad idea.

I’m sick of it all. There is no place to get honest information.

Thank you for reading my post.

New Adventures

June 15, 2018

I am venturing into the liberal mecca known as Boulder, CO. I will be living there for seven weeks, starting Monday. I won’t say why I’m there (I like that I’m somewhat anonymous on this blog), but just know that it is a temporary move for work.

I am looking forward to the new adventures, but I am not looking forward to the politics. Soon after I found out I was moving there, they passed their own “assault weapons” bill. Driving around town and reading bumper stickers and such, I am clearly outnumbered 1000 to 1.

I will post on here about my experiences in an unfriendly land.

Thank you for reading my post.

Eminem, the New Champion of Children

March 23, 2018

I finally got around to commenting on Eminem vs. the NRA.

Eminem has been commended by all manner of liberals for “standing up” to the NRA. He’s been featured in CNN Rolling Stone and virtually every other news outlet has reported on it.


“And the NRA is in our way/ They’re responsible for this whole production/ They hold the strings, they control the puppets / And they threaten to take away donor bucks so they know the government won’t do nothing / And nobody’s punching, gun owners clutching their loaded weapon / They love their guns more than our children.”

He’s standing up for the kids with his lyrics. What a swell guy, right? In fact, let’s check a few more of his lyrics to see what insight he has for us:

“Oh where’s mama? She’s takin a little nap in the trunk
Oh that smell (whew!) da-da musta runned over a skunk
Now I know what you’re thinkin – it’s kind of late to go swimmin
But you know your mama, she’s one of those type of women
that do crazy things, and if she don’t get her way, she’ll throw a fit
Don’t play with da-da’s toy knife, honey, let go of it (no!)
And don’t look so upset, why you actin bashful?
Don’t you wanna help da-da build a sand castle? (yeah!)
And mama said she wants to show how far she can float
And don’t worry about that little boo-boo on her throat
It’s just a little scratch – it don’t hurt, her was eatin
dinner while you were sweepin and spilled ketchup on her shirt
Mama’s messy isn’t she? We’ll let her wash off in the water
and me and you can pway by ourselves, can’t we?”
-’97 Bonnie and Clyde

A song about slitting his baby mama’s throat and throwing her in the water.
Eminem, always the family man. Hmmm, I wonder what else he has to say.

“I’m a psychopath, I’m never keepin’ it plain
Lyrical murder is somethin’ I’ve been about
Ever since I was a little kid, doodlin’ in the class
Drew a picture of my teacher, bullet in his head, ruler in his ass
With a toilet in front of him, throwin’ up, pissed off”
-Psychopath Killer

You mean a song about shooting a teacher?

The funny thing is that I don’t dislike Eminem. I just wonder when he became such a spokesperson for non-violence. I don’t take him seriously, and neither should you. He’s basically a foul-mouthed comedian, nothing more.

Thank you for reading my post.

School Shooting

February 23, 2018

I’m exhausted and emotionally drained.  This most recent school shooting, while extremely tragic, has whipped up a frenzy unlike any I have seen.    Sure, people have been outraged by school shootings in the past, but this one is somehow different.  I’m not sure how.

I have argued with long-time friends on social media, most of which started out their post with something like, “F*** the NRA” or “white men strike again” or other such drivel.  My mistake was to try to reason any of these people.

At work, the other professors complained about “easy access” to firearms but then asked if I knew who had a concealed carry permit, and who carried.  I told them, “Yes, I know…but no, I won’t say.”  I realized that even though these professors are generally good people (they are), that if I revealed this tidbit of information, it could be harder for them to get into grad school, get letters of recommendation, and so on.  When, in reality, whether they carry or not is none of the school’s business, once they are not on school grounds.

Instead, I go through my friends list and realize that I have none.  There are virtually no people who support my right to own the AR-15’s I already own.  Between the professors asking me that question, between the ad hominem attacks on my friends list, I realize that our right to own guns is almost over.  We are losing this battle.  In ten years, I bet there is a ban in place.  If there isn’t, we’ll run around like druggies, ostracized by society and struggling to find employment.

Yet, I will surrender none of my guns.  I don’t know if I have any will to fight, but I will try to vote every chance I can.  I will try and respond, when there is some shred of logic in the statements that are argued against me.  I don’t think it will do any good, but I’m not sure what there is left to do.

Thank you for reading my post.

Virginia Tech “Shooter”

February 16, 2018

 
My father sent me a link to this article:
 http://www.wdbj7.com/content/news/Virginia-Tech-student-arrested-after-illegally-possessing-assault-rifles-471815644.html

This kid’s life is over, and for what? He is not a school shooter, or at least has shot nobody at this time. His actual crime was that he shot from a 30 round magazine instead of a 20 round magazine. At a shooting range. Safely. A rifle he stored IN THE POLICE STATION.

After he checked his rifle out of the police station, he went to the shooting range. The police followed him there and watched to make sure he didn’t use a magazine that was two inches longer and held 10 extra rounds.

Why? Because as a kid on a student visa, he was allowed to have a rifle, but not an “assault” rifle, as defined by a 30 round magazine instead of a 20 round magazine.

The rest of the article is a sludge-fest. He drives an old police car. He did research on bullet-proof vests on his computer.

I look back on my life at Virginia Tech. I always wanted a police car (which I currently drive). If I had stayed, my graduate work would have been in ceramic armor plates. I would have done lots of research on armor.

THIS COULD HAVE BEEN ME.

Your stupid, antigun terminology is going to ruin this kid’s life, just like it could have been mine. I guess that’s the real problem will all of this. You are willing to sacrifice the rights of some for the pretend security of others. “You can’t make an omelet without cracking a few eggs,” some might say. Well, I say, screw your omelet. I’m not willing to be an egg you crack, and neither should you be willing.

Thank you for reading my post.

Trying to Find Reliable Sources

January 26, 2018

I don’t have a well-researched post tonight.  I did have a piece of a story I found on Reddit, but I have no way to verify the incident, so I won’t write a full post on it.

The post was about a man who fell asleep on a plane, developed an erection while he was asleep, and was then sued for sexual misconduct.

I spent a bunch of time looking for the article, but couldn’t find it, so it may be fiction.  Unfortunately, it is believable with today’s ridiculous witch-hunts.

Also, my wireless card may have died on this laptop, but I am going to have to reboot to find out.  Therefore, I’m not wasting any more time working on this.

“S-Hole” Countries

January 19, 2018

Trump allegedly made some derogatory remarks about “s-hole countries.”  Since then, the press has ran with it like a 10 year-old who has learned a new curse word.  There was even a congress critter who feigned tears in pretend outrage.

You know, if they raised taxes to support acting lessons for politicians, I’d probably agree to it.  At least then they wouldn’t suck at everything.

The news has been screaming that Trump is a racist, and this statement is offered as evidence.  It is a funny argument:

  1.  Trump never said anything about the people or the culture of these countries.  He merely referred to some countries as “s-holes.”  This could be due to pollution, political unrest, or any number of reasons.
  2. If people are leaving these countries, there is something undesirable that is causing people to leave.

Interestingly, nobody bats and eyelash when they show the dreadful conditions of some of these countries on the television.  Nobody seems to consider extreme poverty, war, pollution, and disease part of these cultures, and yet when someone says, “hey, this is an s-hole” he is accused of being racist and attacking a culture.

I’ll address immigration another time.

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