#MeToo Movement and Package Deals

July 12, 2018

The #MeToo movement, while well-intentioned, may be the package deal of our time.  Its original intent was to highlight the high rate of sexual assault in our communities.  The idea is that sexual assault isn’t just a once-in-a-while occurrence, but that it happens every day, in our own town.

Sexual assault is pretty clear- you physically bother someone when they have said, “no thanks.”

Sexual harassment is also encompassed in the #MeToo movement, and it is a little bit more dicey.  The dictionary definition of sexual harassment is:

“harassment (typically of a woman) in a workplace, or other professional or social situation, involving the making of unwanted sexual advances or obscene remarks.”

I am actually impressed that Feminist.org actually has an objective list of harassment definitions.  I agree on all counts.

This should all seem straight forward.  You can’t ask for sexual favors of your employees as a condition of employment.  However, let’s turn to the internet and see what is considered sexual harassment.

I keep seeing #MeToo tags covering things that are neither sexual assault, nor harassment.  These are things like, “He asked me out, gross” or “he was making me uncomfortable.”

The first one IS sexual harassment if he continued to harass her after she turned him down.  The second one is only sexual harassment if you have objective reasons.  Your feelings are NOT an objective measure of harassment, or anything else for that matter.  If you say, “it made me feel uncomfortable when he (fill in the blank with a objective charge against him)”  then it is harassment.

Why would I say that?  Why aren’t her feelings evidence?  Because how you feel about something is NOT under another’s control.  Because how you feel should never be what costs someone their job or freedom, just as how they feel should never cost you yours.  I’m sure plenty of suburban white folks felt “uncomfortable” when African Americans became more affluent and moved to their neighborhoods.  The feelings of the neighbors should never interfere with the rights of the African Americans who just wanted to legally purchase a home.

Well isn’t it more important that we protect women from unwanted advances than to worry about the rights of a few harassers?   No.  Let me give an example:

Teenage boy likes teenage girl.  Boy asks girl out.  Girl is not interested at all, and feels uncomfortable that he should even ask.  Boy is broken-hearted but does not ask again.  However, because the girl felt uncomfortable, he is accused of sexual harassment.  He is suspended from school, moved classes, etc.  His entire future is changed simply because he dared to ask a girl out who was not interested.

Granted, had he continued bothering her, it would be a clear-cut case of harassment, and I would agree with the administrative response.  However, our “fictional” scenario happens frequently.  Using only her feelings as a guide, we can severely ruin a young man’s career before it even starts.

Do you want to know why more men haven’t supported the #MeToo movement?  Is it because we are all secretly rapists?  No.  It’s because every one of us was once an awkward teenage boy that asked a girl out who was not interested.  We wonder if that was harassment.

You may say, “but that’s not harassment!” and I would agree with you.  However, even the accusation of harassment is enough to deter many of us.  How many high profile folks have lost jobs over harassment accusations?  Let alone the rest of us!

The package deal is that all of these things are lumped together under sexual harassment.  An honest interest and sincere request for a date is lumped in with back-of-the-alley rape.  The rejected requester may have to prove his innocence, which is impossible, if the only evidence offered is her feelings.

So, ladies, next time that cute guy quietly sips his drink at the bar and doesn’t ask to buy you a drink, it might be because he doesn’t want to be accused of harassment.   Maybe it’s simply not worth it anymore.

Thank you for reading my post.

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Separating Families…Again.

July 10, 2018

I decided to revisit this topic as I hear more about it.

I mentioned before that the poster child of the separated families movement was not actually separated from her parents.  I have been told by numerous people that “it doesn’t matter that she was not actually separated, she is a symbol” of the situation.

Here is the problem:  if this is so widespread, it should be easy to find another “symbol” who actually was separated from her family.  If one wants to show the environmental impact of an oil spill, they show a duck covered in oil from the oil spill; they don’t find a random duck, cover it in oil and use it for the photo.  If a tornado hits a town, the reporters don’t get to take a stock image of another tornado and call it a “symbol” similar to the one that struck the town.  It’s ridiculous and dishonest.

Here’s the real beef, however.  I’ve heard that somewhere around 3,000 families have been separated at the border.  That is tragic.  Yet, how many families right now are separated due to divorce, drugs, jail, abuse, and so on?  While you scream over a symbolic photo, I can see a homeless teenager from my train almost every morning.  And I don’t even live in a huge city.  While you applaud Time Magazine’s cover with Trump and a symbolic screaming girl, a real girl is being sold into sex slavery.  While you yell at the border patrol, a divorced father is granted no visitation of his kids.  While you cry for this symbol, a real child is abandoned in the streets of your city.  Where is your outrage?

In my city, there are an estimated ~2500 homeless teens.  I volunteer at a boarding school for homeless teens that can house 36.  We typically only have funds for around 20 at a time.

This is all manufactured outrage at the current president, and has nothing to do with actual separated families.  This has been going on for ages- all of it.  Where was your outrage in the past?

If you actually cared, if you actually wanted to see families together, you would work towards that.  Instead, you carry signs calling all of your opponents “Hitler.”  If the thousands of protesters donated the time and money that they used in protest towards ACTUALLY keeping families together, what would that look like?  What if instead of spending hours each week arguing on Facebook about separating families, we actually spent the time volunteering at an orphanage, what would that look like?  You claim to want to keep families together, and yet you spend most of your time trying to divide people further.

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Attack!

June 29, 2018

I would like to point out this awful email I received from FightForEquality.org. This email is a dumpster fire, complete with an animated image of Donald Trump riding on top of a jet towards Wisconsin. Don’t believe me?

surprise attack

YEEEEEEHAAAAAAAW!

 

This email says that Donald Trump is going to PERSONALLY ATTACK a US Senator!

Folks, this is the problem.  Trump isn’t going to attack anyone.  What is he going to do?  Hit her?  Beat her up?

It’s all fake.  And it’s shameful.  The reality is that plenty of LGBTQ folks deal with REAL attacks from people who do physical harm.  To mix up the language here and pretend that political debate, banter and campaigning is an “attack” is to cheapen the experience of those who have actually been attacked.

It’s alarmist and unnecessary.

Furthermore, this organization has the worst website on the planet.  I have no idea who actually receives any money you donate.

Whether you support this candidate or not, you should probably find out if this organization is legitimate or not before donating… then consider whether you want to donate money to an organization that fans the flames of hatred and physical violence.

Thank you for reading my post.

Family Separation

June 21, 2018

I have not spent any time at all researching this issue. So far, I only see what I have seen on Facebook. Most are old pictures during the Obama era, and even older.

Here’s all I have to say about it.

#1. This is why we don’t trust the media anymore. It’s a joke. They post old photos and blame it on the current president. It’s dishonest. It’s a lie. You want to know why Trump won? Because we didn’t trust you, the media, any longer.

#2. I like the fake outrage. Once the photos came out as old, people removed their posts. If there are kids in cages, and that bothers you, why does it matter who was sitting president at the time? Aren’t you still outraged? Or…perhaps… is it about spreading some hatred towards the current president? It would have been equally dishonest if conservatives posted photos, blaming Obama, when it happened under Bush.

#3. It’s funny to watch how Trump flipped (or perhaps researched?) the situation. My Facebook feed is filled with people shouting about Trump locking kids in cages. Then he signed the Executive Order. I bet I see an influx of posts describing how this was a bad idea.

I’m sick of it all. There is no place to get honest information.

Thank you for reading my post.

New Adventures

June 15, 2018

I am venturing into the liberal mecca known as Boulder, CO. I will be living there for seven weeks, starting Monday. I won’t say why I’m there (I like that I’m somewhat anonymous on this blog), but just know that it is a temporary move for work.

I am looking forward to the new adventures, but I am not looking forward to the politics. Soon after I found out I was moving there, they passed their own “assault weapons” bill. Driving around town and reading bumper stickers and such, I am clearly outnumbered 1000 to 1.

I will post on here about my experiences in an unfriendly land.

Thank you for reading my post.

Eminent Domain is Still Theft

June 8, 2018

I must laugh at this video: http://americangg.net/local-government-furious/

Short version: City of Dallas wants to run an 84″ water pipeline through a guy’s property. He tells them to take a hike. He builds a cemetery on his property so that it cannot be eminent domain-ed under Texas law. Years and many dollars of lawsuit later, the city gives up.

Listen to butthurt lady on the city council who is furious that a man gets to keep his property. Her tears are delicious.

Be wary anytime someone says “for the common good.” Our eminent domain laws often mention “the common good” or “the greater good.” Who decides? Is it really for the “common good” if a group of people can decide how to dispose of your property?

If one is consistent with this thought process, he or she should probably commit suicide. After all, he or she is but one person, and after they are gone, they likely have two kidneys, a heart, two lungs, and a liver that could support six other lives. Isn’t that the “greater good” or “the greatest good for the greatest number?”

And while we are talking about burying a pipe on someone’s land, not whether or not a person has a right to live, are they really that different? If the government can take my property any time they see fit, do we really own anything? We can be made homeless, and allowed to freeze in the cold by the simple whim of the government.

“But, they compensate you for your land…” No. If I hold a gun to your head, and insist that you sell me your Rolex for $1, it’s still robbery. Sale implies an agreement from both parties. When one party can use force to make you “agree”, it’s not a deal. A robber that says, “your money or your life” is not selling you your health and well-being.

Eminent domain will always be theft. If there was a fair deal to be made, the government would not need such a system of codes. They could deal fairly, and both sides of the deal would be satisfied with what they received.

Thank you for reading my post.

Two Cars of Students

March 29, 2018

I recently went on a trip to a conference with a bunch of undergraduate students. Driving there was a rush, as we had to leave early Friday morning for Provo, hoping to get there before the evening events. We arrived with 20 minutes to spare.

On the way home, there was no rush. We had all day to get back to New Mexico, other than getting back to study and such.

We were split between two cars; I had three students in my car, and the other car had five students total. All eight of these students are relatively good students.

We left in the morning. I stopped in Moab, UT, for lunch. The other car said, “We don’t have time to stop” and they drove on. Instead, my group bopped around Moab for a nice lunch, a nice walk, and a little sight-seeing.

We drove a little farther and stopped to walk up to Wilson’s arch, a natural arch along the roadside. The other group texted to say they were crossing into New Mexico.

In the end, we showed up three hours behind them. But who had a richer experience?

Often, as hardworking people, we feel that we don’t have time to have fun. That we don’t deserve it. Look around. All of the people who DON’T work stop and have fun once in a while. Why can’t we?

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Eminem, the New Champion of Children

March 23, 2018

I finally got around to commenting on Eminem vs. the NRA.

Eminem has been commended by all manner of liberals for “standing up” to the NRA. He’s been featured in CNN Rolling Stone and virtually every other news outlet has reported on it.


“And the NRA is in our way/ They’re responsible for this whole production/ They hold the strings, they control the puppets / And they threaten to take away donor bucks so they know the government won’t do nothing / And nobody’s punching, gun owners clutching their loaded weapon / They love their guns more than our children.”

He’s standing up for the kids with his lyrics. What a swell guy, right? In fact, let’s check a few more of his lyrics to see what insight he has for us:

“Oh where’s mama? She’s takin a little nap in the trunk
Oh that smell (whew!) da-da musta runned over a skunk
Now I know what you’re thinkin – it’s kind of late to go swimmin
But you know your mama, she’s one of those type of women
that do crazy things, and if she don’t get her way, she’ll throw a fit
Don’t play with da-da’s toy knife, honey, let go of it (no!)
And don’t look so upset, why you actin bashful?
Don’t you wanna help da-da build a sand castle? (yeah!)
And mama said she wants to show how far she can float
And don’t worry about that little boo-boo on her throat
It’s just a little scratch – it don’t hurt, her was eatin
dinner while you were sweepin and spilled ketchup on her shirt
Mama’s messy isn’t she? We’ll let her wash off in the water
and me and you can pway by ourselves, can’t we?”
-’97 Bonnie and Clyde

A song about slitting his baby mama’s throat and throwing her in the water.
Eminem, always the family man. Hmmm, I wonder what else he has to say.

“I’m a psychopath, I’m never keepin’ it plain
Lyrical murder is somethin’ I’ve been about
Ever since I was a little kid, doodlin’ in the class
Drew a picture of my teacher, bullet in his head, ruler in his ass
With a toilet in front of him, throwin’ up, pissed off”
-Psychopath Killer

You mean a song about shooting a teacher?

The funny thing is that I don’t dislike Eminem. I just wonder when he became such a spokesperson for non-violence. I don’t take him seriously, and neither should you. He’s basically a foul-mouthed comedian, nothing more.

Thank you for reading my post.

Cutting Up Guns

March 16, 2018

Some people will do anything for 15 seconds of fame.  For example, there are quite a few “viral videos” (read:  pushed by the media) of people cutting up their AR-15s.  All of these videos have the same story: “I bought an AR-15, but after the school shooting, I don’t want it anymore.”

So, they take a saw and cut it up.

First: Many of them cut the barrel, making this a short-barreled rifle (SBR), which is against the ATF code. If I did this to my gun, I would be a felon, as it is considered a destructive device, and requires a special permit.

Second: If you look at the gun you bought, and you only worry that it will be used to shoot up a school, you probably don’t need a gun in the first place. I look at my ARs and see lots of things. I see the time I spent assembling them with family members, the money I invested in them, and the good times and memories I’ve had shooting them. I don’t school shootings. If you can only think of school shootings when you look at your gun, you probably are unstable.

Third: One of these women is running for office. She cut up an AR as a political piece. Nothing says “politician” like turning $800 of working machinery into $0.25 of scrap metal. Boy, I can’t wait for her to get my tax dollars.

Finally: These folks have already bought these guns. It is their property, and they can dispose of it how they choose. I just wonder what they think they’ve accomplished. They took one gun out of circulation; probably 100 more were stamped out at the various factories in the time it took them to turn on their saws.

These folks buy a gun, then destroy it to protest that they could buy it in the first place. It’s like protesting obesity by buying a Big Mac, then throwing it in the trash. It just shows you’re a wasteful ass.
 
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Malia Obama and Other Kids

March 8, 2018

I will preface this article by saying I don’t like Obama.  I hated most of his policies, and I hated the way people thought he did no wrong.

Having said that, I have seen too many articles over the past week about Malia (Obama’s daughter) and her boyfriend.  Can we please leave the girl alone?

I have thought this with all of the presidents and their kids.  I didn’t like it when they hounded the Bush kids over using a fake ID, and made them out to be alcoholics.  I didn’t like it when they called Palin’s daughter a whore.

These kids didn’t get to pick their parents.  Perhaps they would have preferred to not have a president as a parent, and perhaps they are happy with it.  Either way, they are becoming their own people and probably don’t need the attention as they try to make their own ways through life.

Let these kids be themselves.  Let them date, make mistakes, do whatever.  I may not like Obama’s policies, but I don’t really care who Malia is dating while she is in college.   It is simply not my business.  I don’t care that the Bush twins were caught using a fake ID.  Are you sure your kid isn’t using one in college?  I don’t care that Bristol Palin got pregnant before she was married.  What was your daughter doing at 17?  Let these kids alone.

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